“Hi, I’m Raj, a Clinical Psychologist working in the NHS, but that’s only one part of who I am. I am also mother of 2 children, wife, daughter, younger sister, friend, cousin and a colleague.”
Dr Raj Dhanjal
Why mention all these relationships?
Because, these roles reflect the meaningful connections that have supported me through life’s many ups and downs.
Why Community Matters?
Early in my career in complex trauma services, I was inspired by a colleague’s written work on “power” and how it can influence all aspects of our life and wellbeing. I began to see how politics, economics, and culture deeply influence how we feel about ourselves and ultimately affect our wellbeing.
It often makes me reflect on recent world affairs and how such events have ripple effects across the ocean, leaving many of us questioning our place in the world. At times this can be a lonely place for many including Sikh communities.
Daily Pressures
I’m at a point in life where I am truly blessed to have a family, yet lately I’ve felt the weight of life’s many challenges, be this my parents ageing, financial demands, raising children in what can feel like a divisive world or just trying to stay fit and healthy. When I reflect on this, the one thing that has always helped me are the people around me.
Small Acts, Deep Meaning
Small acts of kindness really matter, being heard, eating my mums amazing Punjabi home cooked food, walking with friends, or receiving a kind note from loved ones.
Faith and religion are important too
I often find comfort and a feeling of relaxation in the Gurdwara, listening to Simran (pray) or Kirtan (spiritual music). I know my parents hold me in mind during their
daily Simran, a reminder of how powerful it is to be held in someone’s thoughts.
As a child, I found peace during tough times in the sound of Simran playing on the CD and the scent of burning incense at home.
Recently, I shared with my daughter a self-soothing box I made, filled with an incense stick, dried masala spices to smell, positive quotes, and nostalgic films that ground or comfort me through laughter. It’s a simple reminder of how deeply culture and identity support wellbeing.
Kindness builds Connection
A gentle reminder that mental health awareness is about holding others in mind with compassion and care.
Let’s keep the conversation going. There is a wide range of support and resources available, and these can be accessed and tailored to include faith, culture, and the
unique needs of our communities.
With best wishes
Dr Raj Dhanjal
Principal Clinical Psychologist
& Accredited Cognitive Analytical Practitioner
West Yorkshire Staff Mental Health
and Wellbeing Hub